Saturday, 30 November 2013

Another one bites the dust...

Yep- BFN. I started spotting at 11dp2dt and my cervix felt hard and low when I put my progesterone pessary in. I tested yesterday morning (12dp2dt) and there was no trace of a second line on the urine pregnancy test. I feel tired. What next? From what I can tell with repeated implantation failure it is either an embryo quality issue or a uterine receptivity issue. I am frustrated with our clinics preference for 2 day embryos as I want to know what our embryos would do past this phase. Are they even reaching blastocyst or are they arresting at 2-3 days? Are they hatching? Why aren't they implanting? I have arranged for us to have a DQ alpha match test through the doctor we consulted with about natural killer cells. I'm torn between continuing with FET's using our remaining embryos as I worry that it won't work. My thoughts are we should change clinics and move to Monash IVF in Melbourne- where they specialise in blastocyst transfer. I want to know if it is an embryo issue or whether it is an issue with my uterine receptivity so we can look at our options. We have discussed donor embryos, donor eggs and donor sperm and even though these avenues are complicated we both know we are open to what we need to do. We have also discussed surrogacy; which is quite a challenging process in Australia. I have started looking into overseas clinics in India and Thailand and like the look of the Surragocy Centre India. I hope so much that I can carry a child that is biologically mine and my husbands but I think we have to start looking at other options.


  1. I am so so sorry. Been checking your blog all weekend for news, would have loved for it to have been different. This really sucks. Looking at a different clinic that will let you use older embryos sounds like a good idea? I think they try to do 5 days in the UK but not sure. I can imagine that continuing to look ahead, at different options, clinics etc is helpful but right now it must just be so disappointing. I hope you and your husband are ok and that the right decision will come to you. Mind yourself x

  2. thank you so much for your kind words and thoughts. It is definitely a difficult time for us and my only way of coping is to try and 'solve' our infertility by researching all our options. I catch myself getting upset at certain moments but I know if I let myself feel too much it will be too painful. It is a great comfort to know that others are thinking of me and my husband so thank you again from the bottom of my heart x